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God gives us horses and compels some of us to love them. Yet why does the horse, an animal with such a big heart, live such a short life?
Perhaps it's because if our horses lived longer, we wouldn't be able to bear losing them. Or, perhaps it's because God wants to ride.
Perhaps God looks down on the fine horses we raise and decides when it’s his turn to ride. He gives us a few good years to care for and learn from them, but when the time is right; it's up to us to see them off gracefully. OK, perhaps not gracefully. Blowing Kleenex is rarely graceful. But we can be grateful. To have a horse in your life is a gift. In a matter of a few short years, a horse can teach a girl courage, if she chooses to grab mane and hang on for dear life.
Even the smallest of ponies is mightier than the tallest of girls. To conquer the fear of falling off, having ones toes crushed or being publicly humiliated at a horse show is an admirable feat for a child. For that, we can be grateful.
Horses teach us responsibility. Unlike a bicycle - or computer - a horses needs regular care and most of it requires that you get dirty and smelly and up off the couch. Choosing to leave your cozy kitchen to break the crust of ice on the water buckets is to choose responsibility. When our horses dip their noses and drink heartily, we know we've made the right choice.
Learning to care for a horse is both an art and a science. Some are easy keepers, requiring little more than regular turn out, a flake of hay, and a trough of clean water. Others will test you- you'll struggle to keep them from being too fat or too thin. You'll have their feet shod regularly only to find shoes gone missing. Some are so accident -prone you'll swear they're intentionally finding new ways of injuring themselves.
If you weren't raised with horses, you can't know that they have their unique personalities. You'd expect this from dogs, but horses? Indeed, there are clever horses, grumpy horses and even horses with a sense of humor.
Those prone to humor will test by finding new ways to escape from the barn when you least expect it. I found one of ours on the front porch one morning, eating the cornstalks I'd carefully arranged as Halloween decorations.
Horses can be timid or brave, lazy or athletic, obstinate or willing. You will hit it off with some horses and others will elude you altogether. There are as many "types" of horses as there are a person - which makes the whole partnership thing all the more interesting.
If you're never ridden a horse you probably assume it's a simple thing you can learn on a weekend. You can, in fact, learn the basics on a Sunday - but to truly ride well takes a lifetime. Working with a living being is far more complex than turning a key in the ignition and putting the care in "drive".
In addition to listening to your instructor, your horse will have a few things to say to you as well. On a good day, he'll be happy to go along with the program and tolerate your mistakes; on a bad day, you'll swear he's trying to kill you. Perhaps he's naughty or perhaps he's fed up with how slowly you're learning his language. Regardless, the horse will have an opinion. He may choose to challenge you (which can ultimately make you a better rider) or he may carefully carry you over fences…if it suits him. It all depends on the partnership - and partnership is what it's all about.
If you face your fear, swallow your pride, and are willing to work at it you'll learn lessons in courage, commitment, and compassion, in addition to basic survival skills. You'll discover just how hard you're willing to work toward a goal, how little you know, and how much you have to learn. And while some think the horse "does all the work", you'll be challenged physically as well as mentally. Your horse may humble you completely. Or, you may find that sitting on his back is the closes you'll get to heaven. You could choose to intimidate your horse, but do you really want to? The results may come more quickly, but will your work ever be as graceful as that gained through trust? The best partners choose to listen, as well as tell. When it works, we experience a sweet sense of accomplishment brought by smarts, hard work, and mutual understanding between horse and rider. These are the days when you know with absolute certainly that your horse is enjoying his work.
If we make it to adulthood with horses still in our lives, most of us have to squeeze riding into our over saturated schedule; balancing our need for things equine with those of our households and employers. There is never enough time to ride, or to ride as well as we'd like. Hours in the barn are stolen pleasures.
If it is in your blood to love horses, you share your life with them. Our horses know our secrets; we braid our tears into their manes and whisper our hopes into their ears.. A barn is a sanctuary in an unsettled world, a sheltered place where life's true priorities are clear, a warm place to sleep, someone who loves us and the luxury of regular meals….Some of us need these reminders.
When you step back, it's not just about horses- it's about love, life and learning. On any given day, a friend is celebrating the birth of a foal, a red ribbon, or recovery from illness. That same day, there is also loss, a broken limb, a case of colic, or a decision to sustain a life or end it gently. As horse people, we share the accelerated life cycle of horses: the hurried rush of life, love, loss and death that caring for these animals brings us. When our partners pass, it is more than a moment of sorrow. We mark our loss with words of gratitude for the ways our lives have been blessed. Our memories are of joy, awe, and wonder. Absolute union. We honor our hoses for their brave hearts, courage, and willingness to give.
To those outside our circle, it must seem strange. To see us in our muddy boots, who would guess such poetry lives in our hearts? We celebrate our companions with praise worthy of heroes. Indeed, horses have the hearts of warriors and often carry us into and our of fields of battle.
Listen to stories of that once - in- a - lifetime horse; of journeys made and challenges met. The best of horses rise to the challenge we set before them, asking little in return. Those who know them understand how fully a horse can hold a human heart. Together, we share the pain of sudden loss and the lingering taste of long term illness. We shoulder the burden of deciding when or whether to end the life of a true companion.
In the end, we're not certain if God entrusts us to our horses or our horses to us. Does it matter? We're grateful God loaned us the horse in the first place.